Becoming a Mother was absolutely the most significant step on my life’s journey. Completely life changing in the deepest way. Everything leading up to that point had always been only about me..me ..me.. And so I was given the good fortune to change my entire parameter. Everyone’s different…our family , our history, our circumstances, our traditions and beliefs. Unless you totally buy into everything your parents did in your own up bringing, you’re faced with an enormity of decisions and challenges about what’s the "right" thing to do, but at the end of the day..like everything..you can only do your best…
Of course I’m very aware of this wonderful poem
On Children – Kahlil Gibran
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.